Questions for two
Getting to Know Each Other Questions
12 getting to know you questions for couples, early dates, and anyone who wants to get past small talk. You each answer on your own, then see which answers you share and which ones surprised you.
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How it works
Start the game
You'll get 12 multiple-choice questions about memories, small joys, and what makes you you. No account needed.
Answer as yourself
Pick the answer that fits you best. There are no right or wrong answers here.
Send your private link
When you're done, add your name and share the link with the person you're getting to know.
They answer the same 12
Same questions, same order. Neither of you sees the other's answers until you've both finished.
See where you match
Your result shows how aligned your answers are, then where you matched and where you didn't, question by question.
All 12 questions
These are the exact questions you'll both answer, in this order. Each one comes with a few answers to choose from.
- Values & Priorities
What's a childhood memory you still think about sometimes?
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- Lifestyle
What's something small that can instantly make your day better?
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- Lifestyle
If you had a completely free day with no responsibilities, how would you spend it?
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- Values & Priorities
What's something you're really into that you could happily talk about for hours?
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- Adventures & Travel
What's something you've always wanted to try at least once?
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- Relationship
What kind of memories do you love making with other people?
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- Values & Priorities
Who has had a big influence on the person you are today?
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- Adventures & Travel
What's a place you've been that you'd love to experience again?
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- Values & Priorities
What's something people tend to notice about you once they get to know you?
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- Lifestyle
If you could instantly become really good at something, what would you choose?
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- Values & Priorities
What's something you've changed your mind about as you've gotten older?
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- Relationship
What's something about you that you'd love for someone you're dating to discover?
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When to use them
Early dates
Something to talk about besides work and the weather, without jumping straight to the heavy stuff.
The first few months
When you're still learning each other's stories: the people who shaped you, the places you'd go back to, the small things that make a day better.
Long-term couples
Answers change over time. Comparing them now can turn up things you never thought to ask.
New friends
Someone you just met through work, a class, or a friend of a friend. The questions work the same without the romance.
The questions work for any two people, close friends included. For games made for friends, see our Friends games.
Turning an answer into a conversation
Ask why that one
The answer each of you picked is the starting point. The reason behind it is the conversation.
Share the story behind yours
If they picked a childhood memory, tell them which one you were thinking of when you answered.
Get curious about the differences
Different answers aren't a bad sign. They're usually the most interesting part to talk about.
Let one question run long
There's no need to get through every question in one sitting. If one answer turns into a whole evening, that's the point.
What these questions leave for later
None of these 12 questions ask about money, past relationships, kids, or where things are going. That's on purpose: they're for getting to know the person first. When you're ready for the bigger topics, the couples compatibility test covers how you handle disagreements, money, and plans like marriage and kids.
50 more questions to ask when getting to know someone
For a first date, a long call, or a new friend: getting to know you questions to ask out loud, from easy to a little deeper. They aren't in the game, which always uses the 12 above, so pick the ones that fit and skip the rest.
Easy first-date questions
- What's keeping you busy these days?
- What's the best thing that happened to you this week?
- How do you usually spend your weekends?
- What's a hobby you've picked up recently?
- What's the last show you couldn't stop watching?
- What's your favorite place in your city?
- Are you more of a planner or a go-with-the-flow person?
- What's your favorite way to unwind after a long day?
- What's the best meal you've had recently?
- Do you have any pets, or want one someday?
Fun questions
- What's your most unpopular food opinion?
- What's a talent most people don't know you have?
- What's the most spontaneous thing you've ever done?
- Which fictional world would you live in?
- What's your go-to fun fact about yourself?
- What's a song you know every word to?
- What's the weirdest job you've ever had or wanted?
- If you had a theme song, what would it be?
- What's something you're terrible at but enjoy anyway?
- What's your favorite board game or card game?
Would you rather
- Would you rather travel to the past or to the future?
- Would you rather live by the beach or in the mountains?
- Would you rather have a quiet night in or a big night out?
- Would you rather be able to speak every language or play every instrument?
- Would you rather plan a trip down to the minute or book it the night before?
- Would you rather cook dinner or always order in?
- Would you rather read the book or watch the movie?
- Would you rather have breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast?
- Would you rather explore a new city or return to a favorite place?
- Would you rather spend a day with no phone or no music?
A little deeper
- What's something you're proud of that you don't talk about much?
- What does a really good day look like for you?
- Who do you go to when you need advice?
- What's a lesson you learned the hard way?
- What's something that always makes you laugh?
- What's a small thing someone can do that means a lot to you?
- What do you value most in a friendship?
- What's something you're looking forward to right now?
- What's a book, film, or song that changed how you see things?
- When do you feel most like yourself?
Values & the future
- What's something you'd like to learn in the next year?
- Where do you see yourself living in five years?
- What does home mean to you?
- What's on your bucket list?
- What's a tradition you'd like to start someday?
- How do you like to celebrate good news?
- What's a cause or idea you care about?
- What's the best advice you've ever been given?
- What would your ideal weekend look like a few years from now?
- What's something you hope never changes about you?
Want to compare answers? Play the 12 together, then see where you match.
Start with the first question
Answer first, then send the link. You'll see each other's answers once you've both finished.
Questions people ask
Yes. Once you've both finished, you'll see how aligned your answers are as a percentage, followed by where you matched and where you didn't. It isn't a verdict on the two of you, just a quick way to see what you share and what's worth talking about.
12, all multiple choice. You each answer the same questions in the same order.
No. You answer on your own device, then send your private link. They can answer whenever suits them.
Only the two of you. Neither of you can see the other's answers until you've both finished. Keep your link private and only share it with the person you're playing with.
No. There's nothing to sign up for, and it's free.
It's in our Dating & Couples section, but the questions work for any two people who want to know each other better, close friends included.